Oh stress… The seemingly unavoidable nuisance that kills moods, motivation, relationships, diets, productivity, sleep, etc., etc., etc. Whenever I refer to stress, I refer to it as “stress”. Why? Because I believe I’ve (near) mastered how to cope, avoid, and deflect it without it weighing me down like so many people I talk to each and every day as a way of basically eliminating it from it’s real existence in my life. There is a fine line that sometimes I even wonder if it’s stress I handle so well, or if it’s a lack of caring (definitely not a lack of caring). Of course there are extremes that may come up down the road that may cause me to feel some stress, but until then I will attempt to change the mindsets of others and have them believe they can “master” stress too.
Attempt to live by these few principles and you too may be able to be as cool as a cucumber.
- Accept the things you cannot change. “Easier said than done” I always hear. Well, once you’ve “done” it enough, it will become an easy habit. Plus I won’t have to hear that excuse anymore and then everyone wins.
- Look for, and see, the silver lining. I do catch myself once in a while not doing this, but lucky for me I can notice it, change it, and get back on the right track. You can find a silver lining in just about every single situation, you just have to look for it. To avoid completely killing your ability to do this, avoid thinking you or anyone else is “downplaying” your problems; all that’s doing is justifying the way you’re [negatively] reacting to it in your mind. You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.
- Do your best, don’t stress, and forget the rest. If you’ve actually done your best – thought through every scenario, tried to solve the problem in front of you, gave it everything you’ve got – then what do you have to worry about? Something I periodically tell my athletes (whether you think it’s wise or not), is that “you can’t win ‘em all”. Which is true. All you really can do is use the tools you have to accomplish your goals and hope for the best.